The most recent meltdowns have occurred in the far right wing liberals, and manifests itself in SJ Warriors that collapsed in tears believing Armageddon is soon to follow, and all that has been done is a new President elected.
We want to abolish death penalties, food shortages, emphasize civil rights, gay rights, non identifying gender rights, refugee rights, black rights, flag rights, human rights, and the list goes on!
But are we trying to insulate ourselves from pain the wrong way? Is pain actually acceptable at all, a natural occurrence that cannot be escaped?.
I can actually remember as a child watching flames flicker on an open fire. I also remember my mothers stern warning never to remove the guard, I also remember actually burning my fingers, because I disregarded her advice. (Butter and lots of kisses helped).
When I was a carpenters apprentice it took a very short period of time to understand that to miss when hammering a nail………caused a pain second to none.
The abolition of death penalties in most countries have used the pain as part of the argument as to why it should be abolished, as well as the error factor that cannot be reversed. But cruel and painful punishment comes up the most!
Not only do we want pain negated, we also want implied or anticipated pain eradicated. Even assumed pain is a target for those that wish to balance society.
If I think you do not treat me as an equal, observe my rights, allow me freedoms of thought, are not sympathetic with my circumstance,…… are all my perceived thoughts and……….. today’s social warriors want to eradicate that thought too!
Pain is a necessary evil and it could be questioned that we should not suffer it.
The International Association for the Study of Pain‘s widely used definition states: “Pain is an unpleasant sensory and emotional experience associated with actual or potential tissue damage, or described in terms of such damage.”
They go further to state:-
Pain motivates the individual to withdraw from damaging situations, to protect a damaged body part while it heals, and to avoid similar experiences in the future.
Without the pain…you will not withdraw and no amount of warnings will help. That pain is cold, heartless, and absolute!
You need pain to ensure you survive by trying not to make the same mistake again. It teaches you to avoid the circumstance in future (I wont let THAT happen again!)
In relationships you can correct your choices by another partner . In loyalties you can focus on a better candidate. In your social life you can join a like minded group instead of trying to convince some…. that only cause friction…..and PAIN!
Instead of correcting pain we should look at prevention rather than cure, chose our friends and allegiance with care. Flow with the scheme of things because just as a river…. no matter what we do it wont flow with us.
If we are faced with pain we need to be helped to learn how to deal with the pain, not try to eradicate that pain which, may be done on a smaller artificial scale, but in the world of reality there will always be pain.
From childbirth to the dentist, from the loss of a loved one, to that prized possession that we thought so much of and to that love that we once had….. and lost.
Like all things that effect us we can either see it as a defeat or a learning experience that we can take something useful from it.
Perhaps one of those things may be to make sure it never happens again!